The Problem with Generosity

Problem Solving vs Problem Finding. 

There’s a famous quote that says: 

“People don’t want to buy a quarter-inch drill. They want a quarter-inch hole!”

The problem is, we often see not having a drill as the problem, instead of not having what the drill does as the problem. 

Problem Solving vs Problem Finding. 

The idea is to find the real problem, the problem beneath the problem (often not evident), and then solving it. 

What’s the problem or future problem we avoid if we solve this one true underlying problem? 

Often I hear people say: 

“I don’t like to give because people always take advantage of me.” 

Is the problem being taken advantage of, or allowing oneself to be taken advantage of? 

Is the problem allowing yourself to be taken advantage of, or the need to feel needed? 

Is the problem the need to feel needed or growing up with no love or acceptance?

Some people solve their giving problem by not giving. (opening up a whole new set of problems)

And some people solve their giving problem by finding out what the real problem is and solving it. (opening up a whole new set of opportunities)

Their giving will never be the same. 

And neither will we.